Advice For Dealing With College Rejection
Acknowledge your feelings of disappointment. Rejection in any form hurts. Don’t try to sweep your reaction under the rug. Instead, talk with your parents, friends, counselor, teacher and other trustworthy adults about how you’re dealing with it.
Don’t personalize the decision. You should be well aware of the inherent variability of college admissions and how factors outside of your control significantly impact who gets in and who doesn't. College admissions decisions are not personal, and admissions officers frequently discuss how tough their jobs are and how guilty they feel in turning away high caliber applicants. In fact, surveys of admissions officers at selective colleges across the country have shown that roughly 2 out of every 3 applicants are capable of succeeding academically at their school. But unfortunately, the demand of prospective students far outweighs the need of colleges, and simply put, it comes down to a numbers game - some will win and some will lose. You don’t need an acceptance from any particular college to validate your high school career.
See past the immediacy of the rejection. Your college destination does not determine the course of your future. Who you are and what you do is much more important than where you go. Comprehensive research done by many top college admission professionals has shown that there is very little connection between the school you go to and success later in life.
Change Direction - Look Forward & Focus On The Future. After the feelings of sadness subside, focus on your plans going forward. What colleges are next on your list and which of these are the best fit for you? You created a strategic college list of Reach, Target & Safety schools for a reason - to position yourself for a favorable destination next year. Celebrate your current acceptances and anticipate more to come very soon. Your hard work will pay off!